This is good for me. It's giving me an opportunity to further understand what I'm attempting to do. Articulating agendas out in the open air, in the light of day...or in the darkness of night, for that matter, helps.
In a spin doctoring culture, in a culture of denial, in a dominating culture, in a culture where forgetfulness and avoidance are prized, words as transformative and transgressive vehicles for knowledge, yes, but also as steamrolling, sledge hammering vehicles for things political, things about resistance, are key.
I can...unh...eek!...typo...that was supposed to read - can'T, CAN'T make Stinkapee into me. She will become who she will become. I can offer her all the words I've encountered over a life collecting single words, phrases, sentences bundled together, paragraphs loaded with power.
These are just a handful of the single ones she knows and is in the process of developing an understanding of (if you read the first post, here are the definitions as I steal moments to type during the course of my day...):
Blood comes from inside a woman's body, from her uterus after the hormones start flowing when she goes through puberty.
Blood stops coming from inside a woman's body, from her uterus after the hormones stop flowing when she becomes an elder.
Some people like to tell a girl or a woman what she can or cannot do. These people like to think that boys and men are better, smarter, stronger, cooler. The idea that wimmin should just do as they're told and not understand that they are good and smart and strong and cool is called patriarchy.
Our ancestors lived in Africa. The pale people from europe came over in ships. They were lost. They decided to stay and cause a lot of trouble and hurt a lot of people. They stole our ancestors, put them on boats, took them across the water to Turtle Island and made us work on their farms and in their houses for free. They thought they were the boss of us, our big masters. This time was called The Middle Passage.
Some people believe that girls must only have boys as partners or boyfriends. Some people believe that women must only have men as partners or boyfriends. They think that when a princess is lonely she must look for a prince or that when a queen is lonely she must find a king. These people are gender challenged. They have gender issues. Girls can have partners that are girls and women can have partners that are wimmin. Princesses can kiss frogs and the frogs can turn into princesses. Queens can search for another queen and they can rule their lands very well together. Every year there is a big festival that happens in lots of different cities. This festival is for girls who have girlfriends and wimmin who have wimmin partners and princesses who kiss frogs and find other princesses and queens who rule with other queens who can call themselves dykes. This festival is called the dyke march. You've been to it almost every year since you were born. This is where mama takes her top off in public to celebrate her body.
see monday's post.
The islands where the pale people dropped of our ancestors when they stole us and forced us to work for them. This is native land. But a lot of Black people live there.
A figure of speech. We have lots of melanin in our skin. The melanin, as you know, makes our skin beautiful and dark. It also protects us from the sun. We call ourselves black people because our skin is dark. Originally, the pale people who were melanin deficient came to Africa and found us looking so beautiful and interesting...they did not understand our skin. They were confused, angry, scared and had severe issues. Often when people have severe issues they say things about things or people they may not understand to try and make themselves feel better or seem smarter. So, the pale people who came and stole away our ancestors, who made us cry and hurt, called our skin black because they wanted to say they understood who we were...which they didn't. They sort of tried to make themselves think we had muddy skin, dirty skin, dirty blood, like in Harry Potter where some of the wizards think that muggles have dirty blood. Today many people with ancestors from Africa use the word Black to say that our Black skin is beautiful. We like being black and having lots of melanin in our skin.
How we tell we are alive and our spirits are working...even the emotions that don't feel so good are good things, because when we feel them, they don't stay inside our bodies and hurt our spirits.
This is a good feeling. It's a warning. It tells you something doesn't feel right, that something isn't working for you. It can let you know that maybe someone has crossed your boundaries. It can let you know that someone was not respectful of your feelings. It can let you know that you don't like something that is happening. Don't be scared of feeling angry.
You can agree to love someone when you check to make sure they are worth loving. Are they nice to you? Do they treat you well and respect your boundaries? Do they listen when you speak? Do they talk to you? Are they behaving like a good friend? If a person does not behave like a good friend then loving them isn't a good idea.
A part of your body. It is hollow and small. When you go through puberty it will hold and release blood. Maybe, when you get older if you decide to have babies your uterus will get bigger, it will stretch and become bigger than your belly.
Another name for the area around your vulva, vagina, clitoris, urethra.
Now, keep in my that I make sure to only utilize words in definitions and conversations with her that I have already explained and that we've discussed. So, although the language may seem a little complex, keep in mind that I don't drop these words on her out of the blue. They come up in conversations and have been discussed quite a bit in our family.
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