No big love...now, only sister wives...

not particularly interested in kody, who seems very impressed with himself and with is ability to benefit from the work of the wimmin around him. him eating his elder mother's breakfast because he can, because she let's him, because he is more important than she is, is gross and very telling.

nonetheless, as someone doing a whole other version of multiple partnered relationship, what kody's mother and her co-wife said, the basic truths they shared really resonated for me. they were honest about the struggle of making multiple partners work. they were honest as the younger wimmin haven't been because they've been too busy doing indirect communication, passive aggressive maneuvers, public relations and making everything look sweet.
heh.
i see/read between their lines, 'though. things are definitely bumpy for those five people and between those four wimmin regardless of how much they smile and laugh and tell cute anecdotes about their little struggles.

sheryl: there is a certain shaking up that happens. everyone is insecure at a time. but yet after the dust settles it just adds assets to the family.

janelle (kody's mother): we call it kind of like a wheel. and there are certain spokes in the wheel. each wife is a spoke in the wheel. well, when another wife comes in and every one of those spokes has to move -

sheryl: - to be ballanced.

janelle (kody's mother): and the more spokes in the wheel, the stronger the wheel is.

backstory:

janelle (kody's wife): i've said in the past that most of my family disowned meor was appalled when i made the decision to join the faith. the only exception is actually my mother who was trying very hard to support me. so, she came with me to visit the family just to see what it was all about. and i dunno...she also became very intrigued with the faith. and so, she made the conversion to the faith and she actually married kody's dad.

the co-wives revealing...

sheryl: i got to know winn and i became quite attached. it didn't work that way at first with janelle and i.

janelle (kody's mother): nooo...

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janelle (kody's mother): when sheryl came into the family, i had a difficult time because i was jealous. she was beautiful. she was educated. she was vibrant. and i took care of kids and she took care of winn. (laughs) and so, it was a difficult thing for me for quite a while.

sheryl: it's taken some time but we've finally have worked through all those things.

janelle: i consider her one of my best very best friends, now.

sheryl: and me too. me too.

janelle: she just is a delight to be around.

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sheryl: each wife contributes to the marriage her own self, her own personality. and she is a strength in and of herself. janelle has attributes about herself that give our family situation strength. and i do, too. but they're not the same. but if you learn to look at it to where what she's got that you don't have is an asset, the fact that you don't have it is a liability.

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yup. kody's useless. but his mother and her co-wife are just...heartbreakingly truthful...real...working at their relationship.





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